I
had someone call me on the fact that some of the words I use aren't
always in common usage so I thought I would start a definitions list.
Given how busy this last weekend has been and my upcoming surgery
this seemed right up my alley for something I could do during the 6
hours or so of riding in a car I had over the last weekend. If you
see any errors in this list or have things you think should be added,
let me know! I am always up for corrections and comments.
Asexual -
a person who doesn't feel sexual attraction towards other people
Agendered -
a person who feels they have no gender
ASAB -
assigned sex at birth - afab or amab for female/male
Appropriation -
taking something from another persons identity that isn't a part of
yours.
Body
map - a persons internal map of what their body should look
like. A person generally experiences some level of dysphoria if this
doesn't match their body.
BDSM -
bondage, discipline, dominance/submission, sadomasochism
Busted
language - language that is oppressive to another group of
people
Cis -
an overarching term for people whose asab and gender identity match
Cis
sexual - a person whose body map matches their body
Cis
gendered - a person whose asab matches their gender identity
CASAB -
coercively assigned sex at birth
Demisexual -
a person who is sexually attracted to people only after getting to
know them
Dysphoria -
the feeling that something isn't right with your body, either
something is there and shouldn't be or something is missing
Erasure -
the systematic failure to have things a person can identify with in
the culture, e.g. Not having trans* people represented in
schools
Fetish/paraphilia -
something that is typically non sexual that arouses a person or is
required for sexual gratification
Grey-asexual
- a person who isn't sexually attracted to people the
majority of time
Gender
fluid - a person who feels their gender is variable and
doesn't fit in the binary
Gender
queer - a person who feels their gender doesn't fit in the
binary
Gender
fuck - a person who intentionally expresses their gender to
play with people's preconceptions
Heterosexual -
a person who is sexually attracted to what is considered the opposite
sex
Homosexual -
a person who is sexually attracted to the same sex
Intersex -
a person who, at birth, the doctors determined their genitalia was
"ambiguous." typically doctors would "correct"
the ambiguation, thankfully this is being done less and less. Often
this leads to ASAB becoming CASAB.
Misgendering -
not using the correct gender signifiers for a person
Neutrois -
a person who is agendered and experiences dysphoria
Passing -
trying to appear as another gender than your asab, e.g. Afab Trying
to pass as a male
Queer -
a person who feels that modern societal norms don't fit them for
their gender, sexuality or expression thereof. Also a political
ideology
Sapiosexual -
a person who is sexually attracted to intelligence
Sadomasochism -
a person who enjoys giving (sadism) and receiving (masochism) pain
Trans* -
the overarching term for a person whose asab doesn't match their
gender identity
Trans
sexual - a person who is trans* and has or intends to have
gender alignment surgery or hormones
Trans
gender - a person who is trans* and does not intend to have
gender alignment surgery or hormones at this time
Tokenizing -
having one person represent a whole group